We failed to realize that we are more than our job. Except few lucky guys, most of us are doing job only to earn money, but we make it as a life mission. We put all our energy into the job and feel exhausted when we come home. We don't think beyond our job in day to day life. Due to this we live a very stressful life as you are continuously thinking about the reports you need to send, sales target you need to meet or the presentation you need to make even after living the office. All this happens because of the competitive world. We continuously try to become better than others in job, but we never try to become a better person. We are stuck in the cage of this job identity where we are only surviving and don't think much about the world outside this cage.
When we were kids, people used to ask us "what you want to become when you grow up?" Not knowing many options, we would reply like, "I want to become a doctor or an engineer or a pilot". Little did we know that our whole identity will roll around our profession or our job. Today while introducing our selves, we mention about our job very proudly. Like I am working in this company and I am at particular designation. The irony is that even our spouse and kids also introduce us by our profession. So, you must be wondering what is wrong in this? We are successful in what we are doing, then why not let the world know about it. The problem is that this professional identity cover will not let us become what we really want to become.
We all have stories to tell about ourselves. Some of them are positive, but most of them are destructive. Yes I used the correct word. Those stories are not just negative, but they harm us a lot. Stories like "I don't deserve happiness and love" or "I am a loser" or "My life sucks" or "I am dumb and cannot perform well in job" and many more like these we tell to ourselves and to others. These kinds of thoughts have taken place deep inside our mind and we don't realize that they have become roadblocks for our happy life. We think that we are just talking about reality, but we are actually creating reality by speaking negative thoughts.
In college times, my friends and I used to spend all our pocket money on Pool or Snooker game. We used to play this LP which means looser pay and most of the time I was the one playing the role of loser. Those who played Pool must be knowing that the person who pots all his ball and then pot the black ball becomes the winner. Now it was not that my friends were great players. I used to pot all balls, but I always got stuck on the black ball. Even if it was the simplest shot and even a 10 year kid could finish it, I was not able to do it. The reason was that I used to start getting thoughts in my mind that I cannot win the game. I used to tell the stories like I am not good at Pool and most of the time I lose it. My all those mean friends who could do anything to win the game (literally) supported my story and were reminding me every time I am about to win the game.
We all grow with time and so do our income. We get increment in our office or we see increase in profits from business. Even though our income increases from many sources, our savings stands at the same level due to increased expenses. I was discussing saving with a friend with whom I started my career. We both looked at our growth in income and it looked decent, but we were sad to realize that our saving level didn't change much. Our increase in income didn't help us to increase our saving mainly because we were spending more than ever before. That was a striking moment for both of us as we both were happy even at our starting level income and thought that we could spend our life on this with just minimum growth (I know it is funny). But, the reality was different. We got growth more than we thought and in ideal scenario we should have saved more as we were happy spending less. I am sure most of you will be able to relate with this as we don't understand where does our income disappear by the first week of every month.
Now there is another argument stating that there is nothing like spending more. My another dear friend told me that spending gives him pleasure which he defines as happiness. May be he is right. If not happiness at least spending gives pleasure. Then, why should we worry about increase in the expenses. We should live the life as it comes and spend wherever we can. For me, the question arise is how many hours I am spending on work to earn the income to pay any expenses. How many hours I am staying away from my wife and my daughter to earn that money? For how many hours I am not able to do things I like to do to make enough to spend? For me it is always a question of how much value any expense is creating in exchange of giving up the life I want to live.
We can enjoy life in many ways. We go for vacation, we go for movies and malls, we play or just enjoy at home or at resort and read a nice book. We celebrate many festivals and meet many people. We get engaged in many activities and fulfil our creative side. We can enjoy so many things only if we are healthy. Can we enjoy any of the above if our health is deteriorating? I don't think so. Even if we are in the most beautiful place on earth, our focus would be on the pain and not on the beauty surrounding us.
Scientists and doctors have invented medicines for almost every disease. However, advancement in medicine field has gone against the human kind. We are so dependent on medicines now that we don't take precaution to take care of our health. Instead of practicing relaxation every day we prefer to take medicines for blood pressure. Instead of doing exercises or yoga we prefer to take insulin injections. Instead of adopting a healthy lifestyle we prefer to live with a box of colourful medicines. The reason for preferring medicine over healthy lifestyle in not lack of time, it is lack of priority. The day we decide to keep our health on top priorities we will start living a healthy lifestyle.
For all those busy people who cannot do exercise, there is still a hope. If we cannot go to gym, then we can bring the gym into our daily life. We can bring the fitness into our daily activities. There are many benefit to it such as you don’t have to spend extra time for exercises and it will be fun.
Our mind is a wandering creature. It does not like to be still and it needs something to think on continuously. Sometimes mind thinks about future plans, but most of the time it tries to correct our past. If you would have observed your thoughts, then you would have realize that we spend lots of time in the memories of our past life. We also think how we could have avoided the mistakes we committed. Isn't it funny that in spite of knowing that we cannot do much, we still try to rectify our past. I call it one of the traps of mind.
When we cling to our past we cannot focus on our present. We all have hurtful memories which makes us sad. Memories of losing someone, memories of someone hurting us, memories of wrong choices and many more such memories which make us feel low. Even when we are spending good quality time with family our mind start wandering on the streets of past where something had gone wrong. Suddenly from the feeling of joy we have this feeling of sadness and our family members start noticing our absence. We lose many such precious moments just because we hold on to our past very tightly. We just need to let it go. Bygone is bygone.